Realidades de Amor: The Core Truths That Guarantee Your Authentic Bilingual Ceremony.
Enough with the Overdone Fairytale. Let's Talk Real Love!
You've spent years building your life together. You've conquered that awful flu, navigated job changes, adopted that slightly-too-large dog, and mastered the art of knowing exactly when your partner just needs silence. You aren't starting a fairytale; you're celebrating a real-life, functional partnership.
So, why should your wedding ceremony sound like a predictable Hallmark movie script?
The biggest complaint I hear from smart, established couples—like you—is the fear of having a ceremony that’s "too cheesy," "too generic," or just plain boring. Fortunately for you, Bel Altar was created to give you a ceremony that’s honest, funny, and deeply reflective of the beautiful, messy, resilient thing you've built together.
That’s where my Realidades de Amor (Love Realities) come in.
but, Isa … what is a "Realidad de Amor"?
This unique concept was born from the genuine couples who chose Bel Altar to get married: those who knew love is a stronger, better reality than any fairytale. They shared a love that was not idealized or expected to be 100% perfect, because they understood unrealistic expectations sabotage real connection.
A Love Reality is the core truth of your relationship, embracing your natural, imperfect selves—without fear of "failing." It’s what makes you human, and the raw material I use to generate an ambiance. Like a consummate perfumer, I focus on extracting the essence of what matters for your ceremony:
Your Teamwork: How do you solve problems, and how do you show up for each other?
The Humor: What's the one thing that makes your partner laugh out loud, even when they’re grumpy?
Your Honesty: What's the hardest truth you’ve told, and why was that a moment of love?
The Love Realities vs. The Traditional Vows
The Message: "I will try." The vow is a hopeful commitment to become something, not a statement of who you already are as a team. Creates an unnecessary burden on the relationship, where failure to meet the promise is a possibility inherent in the statement itself.
Realidades de Amor: "This Is Who We Are"
Declarative Language: This is a simple declaration of who you already are to each other. It affirms the natural, effortless flow of your relationship, not an expectation of the future.
Unbreakable Will: The focus is on the authentic, known desire of both partners. Since the willingness is internally present, there is no external promise that can be broken.
The Message: "I am this for you." You are declaring who you already are for your partner in this very moment.
The Power: It eliminates the burden of failure. The commitment reveals the strong, honest, and unbreakable reality you've already built together.
Don't Just Take My Word For It
I think it’s best to let a couple who just went through the process, tell you the difference it made:
“We are so glad we chose Isa for our bilingual wedding ceremony in Cartagena! She did so much more than officiate—she truly went above and beyond. [...]
Isa guided us in crafting beautiful and emotional love realities (her unique version of vows focusing on the present rather than future promises)”
I’ve had couples tell me, years later, that their Love Realities became a touchstone. One fabulous couple even framed theirs and hung them in their living room, a daily, tangible reminder of their true foundation, a testament so powerful, they literally made it a centerpiece in their home.
This is the power of moving beyond empty promises to genuine truths. Here’s how I know my Love Reality method can elevate your weddng experience:
From Performance to Presence:
Instead of worrying about remembering vows or feeling disconnected from a generic script, you’re fully present. Every word resonates because it’s your word, perfectly "transcreated" for every guest—from abuelita Alma who will watch the post-wedding video in Neiva, to cousin Andrew who flew all the way from LA to Cartagena for the wedding. No one feels like an outsider; everyone feels the genuine emotion.A Shared Language of the Heart:
I bridge cultural and linguistic gaps with intentionality. Your Love Realities create a common ground, allowing everyone to understand and celebrate your unique connection truly. It’s a moment of profound unity, not just two separate worlds witnessing a marriage.Your Enduring Declaration:
Unlike traditional vows that fade with memory, your Love Realities become a living document of your partnership, your manifesto. It’s a personalized declaration of what truly makes your relationship work, a guiding light you can revisit through life’s seasons.
The Love Reality of Bel Altar:
A Note to You
“My dearest couple,
I admire the way you release yourselves from the burden of perfection. You did the same for me when you chose me as your Bilingual Wedding Celebrant and said: “We clicked immediately, Isa. We’re not looking for a “couple’s counselor” but someone who genuinly conveys our love message to our global community of loved ones.” Thank you for that constant encouragement and vote of confidence.
It’s my honor to be the guardian of your time capsule. Continue to open it with your secret key. No matter the distance, in my digital world you are the real “Ambassadors of Marriage”. Your amazing journey together, helps shape the future of other lovers who undestand the eternal love and commitment of seahorses.
Thank you for accepting me as your reliable sidekick, and the calm, clear voice guiding your courage. You make me wiser and more empathetic.
Finally, always remember NOT to forget: dancing every morning brings you closer, speaking each other’s love languages improves your communication skills, and please, keep growing apart while growing together”
If this letter resonates with the truth of your partnership, let's explore your Love Realities together. Create your Love Reality here.
